In Loving Memory of
Bud is lovingly remembered by his wife Pat,
sons Sean, Mike, and Tyler,
step sons Darin, and Marlin,
as well as their families.
May 15, 2021
Bayside Personal Care Home
A celebration of Bud’s life will
be announced and held
at a later date.
Donations in memory of Bud may be made
to the Killarney Foundation to the
Dedicated Hospital Fund;
Box 1180 Killarney, Manitoba R0K 1G0.
On Saturday, May 15, 2021 our husband, father, grandfather, brother, uncle and friend passed away at Bayside Personal Care Home with his wife Pat at his side.
He leaves to mourn his wife of 19 years, Pat; sons Sean (Ingrid), Michael (Jennifer) and Tyler; stepsons Darin (Shelly)and Marlin (Jacquie), as well as grandchildren Carli (Jack), Mason (Caitlin), Justin, Rylan, Malena, Dayton, Madeline, Kaycee and Carson. He will be fondly remembered by his siblings Maureen (Larry), John (Donna), Peggy and Frank (Brenda), as well as his sister-in-law, Darlene. He was predeceased by his parents Frank and Mickey, his sister Onagh, brother-in-law Keith and nephews Kevin and Jonathan. His memory will also live on in other family members, dear friends, and acquaintances whose lives he touched with his generous, gentle and humorous nature.
Born April 1, 1952 in Souris, Manitoba, he was the fifth child of six born to Frank and Mickey Hay. He lived and worked on the family cattle farm just east of Pipestone; the same family farm that his great grandfather established upon his immigration to Canada. Over the years, he made part of the farm his own. In 2002, he married Patricia Metcalf and together they continued to farm and raise cattle. They welcomed extended family and friends to the farm until they retired to Killarney, Manitoba in 2012.
For their honeymoon, Bud and Pat along with Maureen and Larry went to Ireland where Bud’s mother was born. Other fun family and friends related trips were to Clear Lake, Falcon Lake, British Columbia, Disney World and a Caribbean cruise.
Bud’s family was extremely important to him. He was sentimental and nostalgic about anything related to his family throughout his life. He especially loved when people came to visit the farm. His favorite times were the large family gatherings. These events were filled with love and laughter shared with his parents, siblings, extended family, children and grandchildren.
Calving season was a highlight for him. He enjoyed checking his cattle in the pastures and he always took the time to stop and scratch all of his ‘named’ pets.
On top of being an excellent cattle farmer, Bud was also a stargazer and storm watcher. He learned to read the clouds so well that he knew exactly when the rain would start.
He was a gifted conversationalist and an excellent listener. He especially enjoyed talking on the phone. You would find him in his spot at the kitchen table, right beside the landline phone where he regularly placed calls to treasured family members and friends with his chilled mug of Coke in hand. Everybody will remember Bud’s phone calls. Goodbyes were very hard. You would be about to say goodbye and he would always think of something else to ask. He could chat on the phone for hours and even start a conversation with people who called as a wrong number. A favorite question was “what’s your weather like over there?”
Moving to Killarney was an adjustment for Bud, but he quickly befriended many of his neighbours. As a true farmer, he often went on drives around the countryside familiarizing himself with the area. He enjoyed his time when he volunteered to mow the fairways at the golf course and when he was hired to go baling at the Mahon Farm.
We are deeply saddened to have him leave us. Rest peacefully now, Bud, we will always love and cherish our memories of you. You were a wonderful spouse, dad, grandfather, brother, uncle and friend and you will be deeply missed.
Our family would like to thank all those who supported and cared for Bud in the final years of his life. We are grateful to the wonderful teams at the Killarney Hospital, Davidson Memorial in Cartwright and the Bayside Personal Care Home in Killarney.
Due to COVID restrictions, a celebration of Bud’s life will be held at a later date.
Donations in memory of him may be made to the Killarney Foundation to the Dedicated Hospital Fund; Box 1180, Killarney, Manitoba R0K 1G0
Remember me in quiet days, while raindrops whisper on your pane, but in memories have no grief, let just the joy we knew remain. Remember me when evening stars look down on you with steadfast eyes. Remember me if once you wake to catch a glimpse of red sunrise. And when your thoughts turn to me, know that I would not have you cry, but live for me and laugh for me, when you’re happy, so am I. Remember an old joke we shared, remember me when spring walks by, think once of me when you are sad, and while you live, I shall not die.
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